People with irrational motives and illogical reasoning always end up by attacking and being personal in arguments. The worse part is that it is the wise side that is hurt by that action and not the vice versa.
The most important thing in an argument, next to being right, is to leave an escape hatch for your opponent, so that he can gracefully swing over to your side without too much apparent loss of face.
– Sydney J. Harris
The goal of a great discussion isn’t to land on the same page. It’s to explore different views. Nods and smiles stroke your ego and close your mind. Thoughtful questions stoke your curiosity and stretch your thinking. Consensus makes you comfortable. Dissent makes you smarter.
– Adam Grant
In the fire of an argument words are it’s fuel, choose your words wisely. If you throw in wood or paper, the fire will burn evenly then put itself out. But if you throw oil or gasoline, the fire will spread fiercely and unmanageable.
– Anthony Liccione